Category Archives: Nik Kershaw

So, catching up on the news

Yes, sorry, I know, its been a week since I last posted, been a lot going on in that time. Fine, most of it was work, but I would have posted Thursday, if I hadnt been being wined and dined by the company lol. So, there is a bit of news to catch up on, so lets deal with that. If all goes to plan, it might be a little tribute piece tomorrow night to someone I work with, even if it is a working day. Early finish, and all that, so hopefully…

Right, starting with Nicole’s operation, all has gone fine, I’m pleased to say. Yes, I know, maybe one day I’ll do the same, but for now…

Thursday, and the dinner. Yes, I’m told I looked good, though I havent yet seen any of the pictures taken of me (beyond one of my back) from the do, so can’t say for myself. The meal was good, much better than last year, and the hotel was very nice too. Only shock to me, no phone in the room! I know it was only a Travelodge, and most people have mobiles nowadays, but…I had to go back down to reception to book a taxi, aargh!

After that, nothing really worthy of note happened until 10.00 last night, or a few minutes after, when I got into my taxi home. It is absolutely pot luck as to who you get, but last night, I got one of my favourites, a wonderful lady, somewhere about my age, and its always a pleasure travelling with, and chatting to her. Most of the drivers have the radio on some station playing modern music, which I cant stand, so I’m glad to get home.

Yes, she had something different on, Radio Leeds! Playing lots of 70’s and 80’s stuff, bringing back plenty of memories for me. For example, album of the day, Carpenters singles 60-73, pure heaven for me. Got 3 more late’s this week, I hope I get her again, but I should be so lucky!

But the first record, had me going into pondering mode. What would it really be like to be in someone else’s shoes, even for just 1 day (hopefully that gives away the video), especially in my case, Jean Harlow. I have no idea what the general life of a 30’s movie star was like, but it would be amazing to find out, for me at least. Hopefully it would be a relaxing day, not one when she was filming lol!

And yes, on Sunday, it suddenly dawned on me that its only 4 weeks to my Harlow make up look, and not just for 1 day! Its going to be amazing (especially without those awful 30’s eyebrows), I’m sure, at the very talented hands of Paula. Really looking forward to that, I must say, but more on that nearer the time.

Oh fine, the video

Wouldnt it be good?

I was trying to think of some lyrics to fit in with tonights idea, and these came to mind. Copyright Nick Kershaw obviously

Wouldn’t it be good to be in your shoes
Even if it was for just one day
And wouldn’t it be good
If we could wish ourselves away

Wouldn’t it be good to be on your side
The grass is always
greener over there
And wouldn’t it be good
If we could live without a care

Yes, its a transgender matter, so if thats not why you’re here lol…

The main snag for me, and I suspect most transexuals is what they term body, or gender dysphoria, which to put in simple terms means the brain is one gender (female in my case obviously) while the body is the other gender, causing personal confusion in certain matters, especially sexual ones, well for me at least. Now I know why a penis felt all wrong (even when functional, which it hasnt been for years!), its because I should never have had one, but try working that out when you’re young, and dont know all these things.

But the biggest irony is, the only way I can find out if a woman’s body can now feel right for me, is to have Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS), and that for some is a drastic step, especially if you arent 100% sure. I dont think I have that problem, but….wouldnt it be good as per the lyrics to be able to ‘live’ in a female body for a few days before then, just to find out if it is really you? I’m not saying how much expensive SRS it would stop, but if it saved those who have problems post op from going through that heartache, then just maybe? My personal feeling is it should be one of the early stages of transition, that could also avoid hormonal imbalances if done at an early stage.

The snag with that theory is basically facial, because unless you’ve done laser/ electrolysis off your own back, an mtf is going to have facial hair problems at that point. Also the dear ‘adam’s apple’ thing as well of course. An ftm would have less problems in that sense of course, but there are still differences to get used to. But as an mtf, I’m mainly looking at this from my angle anyway.

It surely cant be that hard nowadays to design a bodysuit to fulfil that role, I guess the main problem would be in designing something material wise that could be worn long term, would need a sort of lycra/silcone magic combination lol, to give the form, but give the wearability. The big snag still would be facial, I know there are such things as female masks, but have you seriously seen one that looks like a real woman?

The funny thing, I’m asexual, as I’ve said before, but that doesnt mean I wouldnt love to find out what its like to make love as a woman does. So yes, ideally the suit should be up to that, even if the man would have to wear a condom lol!

So yes, it would be good for me to be in a womans shoes, even if it was for just one day, but a longer trial would be better. So all you inventors, and designers, get to work!

I suppose I ought to give you the song lol, though its not the greatest video of all time,