Silly title, but events today have driven me to the point of stupidity, or is it concern? Yes, more less than memorable moments in the battle to get this passport in my new name!
As you may remember from Wednesday’s blog, I had a letter from the passport office, requesting details that I’d registered my name change with the driving licence people, and I told them that I didnt have a driving licence, issued solved, I hoped? Wrong!
Today, I got another letter from the passport office, telling me that I was actually issued with a driving licence in 1983. Well, I know I certainly didnt do that, as that was the year I moved to Somerset, and I certainly didnt apply for one then! And no, I certainly didnt order one either in the 2 and a half months I lived in Kent, before moving down there. I did in fact hold a provisional licence, somewhere in the late 1970’s, but that was it. Mainly because my driving talents matched those of Frank Spencer (of Some Mothers Do Have Them fame), so I quickly gave up on the idea.
As far as I remember, since then, I have never held a driving licence, nor have I ever driven a road vehicle at any time. So yes, this news concerned me, a lot, even if its long before identity stealing became popular! So I rang the passport office up, informed them of this, and they told me an examiner would be requested to get back to me quickly. That was 11.00 this morning, still no call. I’ll leave it until Monday afternoon before I chase them, but anyway… The thing is, why didnt all this come up when I changed my name in 2010? Thats right, I heard nothing then, when only changing name, but not gender. Suspicious, maybe? Hopefully not?
Or did I really learn to drive, pass my test, apply for a licence, and was then brainwashed to forget it ever happened? Much though I’d love that to be discovered to be the truth, its not going to be the case, is it? And lets face it, if I was brainwashed by a sinister government department, surely another government department wouldnt now be telling me about it?
I suspect the more likely story is far more dull. When I applied for a joint mortgage in 1987, we had an issue, because of a man with the same name as me. He lived in Derbyshire, I had to prove I’d never lived there, and all was solved. And yes, my intuition is that this driving licence was issued to him, not me.
But its all dragging out this event (its now 5 weeks, instead of the standard 4, and I still havent got it) that is causing me problems with job hunting, at a time I really dont need it! And of course, its Catch 22, to get identity papers anywhere, you need a passport. And they are doing their best to slow down this process, and I really dont need this! This will lead again to stress issues, which makes getting through interviews, getting a job, and some much needed money, even harder! And people wonder why I dont feel like going on with life, seriously! Yes, its getting that bad, about 6 weeks before I have major problems, and thats far too soon for my liking.
Right, rant over, though if anyone wants to issue me a passport (USA would be heaven), so I can travel, and job hunt legally, I’d love it. Before I decide to do something silly, anyway!
Right, video. Alright, the licence issue is going to be related to a guy, but I’m now a girl, so this great track will do nicely.
No, nothing to do with having a string of beaus offering to take me to the cinema, that wouldnt be funny, it would be downright amazing lol! No, not even one, beyond one very long distance caller as yet lol! Maybe I do need to wear a flapper dress, heels, and try and bob my hair after all lol to attract the guys. No, I doubt that would bring any more offers lol.
Oh, and related to that, yes, I’m blonde. I looked up the road that the Grand Theatre is in, and knew where it was. Thats handy, I thought, I’ll go to the box office and get my ticket for the film, as its easier for me to pay cash that way. Snag, I didnt realise that Briggate went both ways across Headrow, thought it only went down into town. So yes, you’ve guessed what happened, I never found the theatre. Checked Google Maps when I got home, and discovered that Briggate is a longer road than I thought lol! Aiming to get ticket on Wednesday now, next viable day to do so work wise, so guiys, you have your chance to charm before then at least. Holds breath, maybe not? 😉
But seriously, thats not the funniest thing thats happened recently. My CV is still up at a couple of on;line agencies, simply never got taken down after the last job search a few years ago. Yes, I did change the name on it when I changed mine, and became a Ms, but that was about it. Anyway, while away in the US, I get an email from an agency enquiring if I was still job searching. Well, I would hardly call the search active, but at the same time, I’ll listen to offers, so…I told them to call me when I got back over here, as I didnt think they’d pay for a phone call to the US somehow.
Interesting thing was, because it was in the finance industry, they asked my gender. Given there was an option to prefer not to say, I took it. Mind, as I had earlier filled in that I was a Ms, they would probably assume female anyway. So why not say so, simple, because the Passport people, and the Tax Office wont give me female status until I’ve had all the surgery. So to them, I’m a Ms, but still a male. Ah well… But what they also wanted to know was any previous names, so…Yes, I told them, and told them the name change was due to transition to womanhood. Now, given attitudes, especially I assumed in that sort of industry, I thought that would be it. Wrong, seems that is fine with them. I do wonder if they will bring the matter up at the phone interview thing on Tuesday though, lets see? Or, if after that, it still goes any further.
But yes, hard to believe, telling them I used to be a Mr, but am now a Ms wasnt the most entertaining bit. One question I’ve never seen before on the form, sexual orientation! Seriously, is it legal to ask that on a job application form? I answered assexual, bet they dont get too many of those lol! Had to add it as an option unsurprisingly. Maybe they have a matchmaking section or something?
Lets say the job is a consideration, and no more, but equally it will be interesting to see just how potential employers react to an openly transgendered woman (pre-op) for future reference, in case the need arises.
Oh, last comment on holiday, I have never been called a lady so many times as I was in my time in the US. And people wonder why I want to move over there, its because all think I’m a woman lol. Well maybe not all, but a very high percentage all the same, its lovely. Got called Blossom, in a flattering way by the guy at Dublin Immigration coming back, no doubt there either. Does seem far less nowadays over here to be fair, but anyway…
So OK, after all those musings, lets get to the bit you come here for, the video. Fooled you, no clue in the title, but definitely in the blog. Just love Annie Lennox’s look in this