Monthly Archives: July, 2015

Had to ask her, her name

Its funny how my attitude has changed to the whole name issue, since transitioning.

At the time, not only did I just literally tweak my Christian name, to something bi-gender, to make the whole thing easier, even the change I made to my middle name was made on the same basis, rather than doing what I probably should have done, and properly became Stephanie Louise, and lived by it. Yes, I changed the surname completely, back to my mothers maiden name, so that it made me look like the great unmarried spinster that I was, lol!

I mean, for many issues now, I could (and sometimes do) say my name is Stephanie, and live by it, though of course that might cause fun on any matter that requires my passport, but anyway, I could always say I used to prefer not to use the formal version, or something, I guess? Or I could just formalise it again, by deed poll, but…my one concern with that, is the only place not willing (or not last time around at least) to change my gender to female, was the passport office! Who knows, they might change their minds now, after all I’ve been living formally as a woman for 5 years now, but I wouldnt want to hold my breath! (It does seem now, that if I got a letter from the doctor, confirming I had lived as a woman for over 2 years, I can now get one as a female, phew!)

The other thought I’ve had, is to change the name completely, and start all over again. And yes, Harlean Carpenter has a very sweet sounding ring to it, I must say. No, I wouldnt take Harlow as my middle name, though I could be tempted to take Jean, all the same. I know, I could take Jean as my first name, but as I’ve already used Harlean a few times, I might even be used to it by now. 😉 Otherwise, I might just keep Stephanie, for old times sake! Also, that way, if I should have problems remembering my name, I can always use my middle name, as many others do!

There is also the beauty that Harlean is very much a name used for both genders, though very rarely used at all nowadays in any case!

To be honest, I’d probably go for it, like a shot, but for one thing, the cost of a new passport…again! Most of the other stuff just involves taking your deed poll to various places, getting your new name changed, and leaving it at that. Yes, there is a small cost for the deed poll as well, but besides that…its that passport fee!

I wouldnt be able to do it now, before September anyway, as I have a flight pre booked under my current name, but after that…I might become Harlean, for real! Or at least get rid of that ghastly abbreviated Stevie, and make it Stephanie, at least.

I must admit, I’ve noticed this recent fund raising craze, and did wonder if I should be cheeky, and do a funding request to get my name changed. To me it seems cheeky, but others have certainly done it for far more money, for fairly light matters, for more than I would need (about £100, by the time you add in photos, and the like), and had donations made! So who can tell? Maybe I should give it a go, cant lose a lot, I guess?

But yes, either way, I have a suspicion that the days of flying the name ‘flag of convenience’ may be coming to an end very soon. And you, my blog readers are the first to know!

Right, the video. Where I might be living very shortly, if I choose the name I’m seriously tempted to. OK, fine, it wont really be my house (I only rent), but close enough. I know nothing about this group, it was just one of those silly searches on You Tube, thats all!

Oh say can you see?

Just to say, anyone laying money on what the video is, you’re almost certainly wrong!

But fine, given the date, and my love of the US, no prizes for working out this is going to start by saying Happy Birthday, America, a mere 239 today! Well, yes, the land was there, long before that, but as its marked by their independence…

However, this blog is focussing on a more recent event. Thats right, I havent yet got to mentioning the Supreme Court decision to allow same sex marriage, in all 50 states. Until then, it was a confusing jumble of what you could, and couldnt do, in various states, to put it mildly! Now it doesnt matter where you are, its a done deal, you can marry, if you want to! Yes, I’m delighted.

No, I have no plans to get married here, in the US or anywhere else at present. But now, if I wanted to, it can be done, and I’m glad.

So far, I’ve never been in the US on the 4th of July, but maybe someday it will happen. Its probably the other big event that I should be there for, after Thanksgiving, which of course I’ve now done. When, not sure at present, it may well be one of those post retirement things, given its right in the middle of the main holiday season, but we will see. Also, a lot of the US is ‘pretty hot’ at this time of year, and thats not really my thing.

But yes, just 10 weeks today, as Arnie said, I’ll be back! Hopefully I will be back in work by then!

Right, the video, apt, but not the one in the blog title. And no, not Yankee Doodle Dandy either, I used that last year! 😛

I’m not getting up early in the morning!

Yes, I’d forgotten what 5.45 in the morning looked like, until this week, and now I’ve again been reminded just how early it is! Mind, I suspect at some point, I will get reminded again of what its like, but for the next few days… will be nearer 8.00, or later!

No, its not because I suddenly developed a Monday to Friday job (yet), but because I’ve been on a course in Leeds all week. Been quite interesting, met some new people, learnt some new stuff, and next week, I should get an interview for a position, either with the NHS, or local government. Of course, getting an interview, and getting a job are 2 different things, but anyway…

Seriously, apart from the culture shock of getting up so early, its not been a bad week, other than on the job hunting front. I know, I know, its the main thing, but…I still have the studying option! No, not Loughborough University, I was a bit late in the day, and under qualified to be a prize candidate for the foundation course there, but as Will discovered for me, I may well still get in at Loughborough College, to do the preparatory stuff, if I want to. Yes, I plan to investigate that a bit more over the weekend, and then consider it.

Other news, well, given I havent been around all week, job hunting (before today) has been very quiet, I simply havent had a minute to myself! Given today was a short day, due to the interviews being delayed until next week (someone is off sick), I did apply for a couple when I got home. On top of that, in theory I have an interview Monday afternoon, but in all honesty, having had the time to look at it, I’ll probably pass.

Main reason for that, you could say is my own fault, its somewhere that it is complex, and a very lengthy process to even get close to, by public transport. As in, nearly 2 hours each way, on a limited timetable. And also, its not cold call selling, but it is ‘pushing’ customers, so not my thing, so put these together, and I’ll probably forego the effort to struggle to get there.

Right, the video. What I need to do, some might say. A live version, from Hollywood, very recently, what more can I say? Not the best if you want to see the band, but the location nailed it.